I’ve been choosing a word to
be my theme for the year since 2016 and I have really done well incorporating
said words and their purposes into my everyday life throughout the years. In 2016 my word was LESS, in 2017 it was
GROW, in 2018 it was JOY, and in 2019 it was DONE (although looking back it
probably should have been ANXIETY.
Haha.). After all of the focus on
getting things DONE and after our many hardships and losses in 2019, I knew
this year’s word needed to be something deep and meaningful. Something life-giving.
During all of our challenging times last year – especially on my most anxious days and also right after my Nana died – there was a single word that kept popping in my head over and over during my prayer and quiet time. I’m pretty sure God planted the seed for that word directly in my heart, so it was a no-brainer to choose it as my word for 2020. That’s why for 2020 I have chosen the word CONNECT.
Since quitting my corporate
job and becoming a stay-at-home mom/blogger two years ago I’ve felt a bit
isolated, and while I adore my alone
time and I love working for myself,
it’s also made me realize just how much I need and crave human interaction… and
not just surface-level hellos and goodbyes… the deep, meaningful stuff,
too. 2019 taught me that we all have
expiration dates and our time here is limited, so it’s important to soak each
other up while we can. So in 2020 I want
to connect with others…
- Connect with God and make my bond with Him stronger
than ever.
- Connect with myself and live my healthiest life… I
will get to know my anxiety, its triggers, and its manifestations so I can
manage it to the best of my ability.
- Connect with Brian on a deeper level… a lot of our
time together is spent on autopilot during this particular season of life and I
don’t want us to lose each other in the busyness like so many other couples do.
- Connect with Jacob and Olivia and really soak up
their littleness and all of their little idiosyncrasies before it’s too late…
they change every single day and they’re going to be grown up so soon.
- Connect with Maui and start
spending more time with her outdoors… more walks around the neighborhood! We do plenty of snuggling with her, but we
rarely make the time to actually play with her and let her get exercise.
- Connect with my parents and try to spend more
quality time with them in different ways other than our typical church and dinners
together.
- Connect with my brothers and check in with them more
than I already do.
- Connect with my grandmother and treasure my time
with her since she’s officially my last living grandparent.
- Connect with extended family members on Brian’s and my
sides of the family. We’re so lucky
to have most of our extended family here in town and I want to take full advantage
of that.
- Connect with my girlfriends even more and foster
those relationships because they’re so important.
- Connect with my old coworkers and try to keep in
touch with them even more than I already do.
- Connect with parents and faculty at the kids’ school and
our church because there are so many lovely people there who I would love
to get to know better.
- Connect with parents of Jacob’s and Olivia’s baseball
and ballet friends and form new relationships.
- Connect with my blogger friends and be even more
supportive and encouraging of them and their businesses… we’re all in this
together, ladies!
- Connect with you, my readers, and chat with y’all more on
Instagram stories.
- Connect with brands and try to start some new
partnerships.
- Connect with strangers on the street and fill
someone’s bucket everyday just because…
I’m so excited about this
year’s word and all that it could bring!
Now for the goals… and
you’ll notice that they’re heavy on people and health-oriented stuff this year
and light on the house and blog to-do’s!
Personal
Put myself out there to connect with others. Join
a bible study, join a book club, volunteer more, chat up random strangers. (Joining a bible study has been on my 2020
Goals List for months and I actually ended up joining one late last year so…
CHECK! Haha.)
Worry less, be positive, complain less. This one has
been on my list pretty much every year, but until just a couple of months ago,
I never really knew how to achieve it. I
feel like time with my devotional and meditating daily have really given me the
tools to succeed. I feel like I’m
learning to relinquish control and trust God more every step of the way, and
man, is that a great feeling! Sure,
there will be struggles, but I really feel like I can do better on this once
and for all.
Live in the present. This is one
of the simplest ways to stop the worrying.
I’m constantly so hyper-focused on trying to predict and control the
future that I often miss out on the now because I’m in a frenzy worrying about
things that haven’t even happened yet. Again,
devotional time and meditation really help with this.
Be kind. One thing I’ve really learned this past year
is that you never, ever know what someone is going through behind the
scenes. It’s always so important to be
kind, even when someone is not kind to you.
Donate blood. Can you believe I’ve never done
this before?! For a long time, I didn’t
meet the minimum weight requirement, but over the last few years I’ve put on
some muscle (and getting older) weight and I can now donate! I think this would be a great/weird way to
connect with strangers I’ll never meet.
How awesome it will be to know that my blood could save a life!
Get out of my routine more while the kids are at
school. This will be a difficult one for me since I
tend to stay in my little cocoon (home office) all day while the kids aren’t
home, but I’ve found that sometimes being at home alone all day seems to make
me more anxious. I’ve noticed recently that on the days when
I’m mixing it up and doing different things or interacting with people my
anxiety seems to stay in check. So in
2020 I fully intend to spend more time getting lost in the library, walking at
the park or around our neighborhood, wandering around Hobby Lobby, having
coffee or lunching with friends, and working from Panera or Starbucks instead
of my desk… simple stuff like that that gets me out of the monotony of daily
life and makes me happy. :o)
Stop rushing and slow the eff down. Pardon my
language, but I recently became annoyed with myself when I realized that a lot
of the time I rush for no reason at all.
Even when I know I have ample time to get where I need to be or to get
the things done on my list, I still fast-walk everywhere and rush around like a
crazy person. Do you know why I do
that? So I can complete tasks faster
than expected to make room for other tasks that weren’t on the list so I can
“get ahead.” Why oh why do I do
that?? There was a line in my devotional
recently that said that “rushing and anxiety go hand-in-hand and God does not
want us to be anxious so we need not rush.”
BOOM. Mic drop, Lindsay’s slowing
down.
Put the phone down. I’m actually really good at this
at home already, but I want to leave my phone behind even more in 2020,
especially in public. I’m so guilty of
scrolling in waiting rooms and check-out lines while I wait, and I want to do
less of that and more interacting with the people around me. And when the kids are around, I don’t even
want my phone to be in their sight unless I’m taking pictures. I want to set a good example for them and let
them know that they are my primary focus always. I don’t want them to ever feel like they are
taking a back seat to a phone.
Stop caring so much about what other people think. I’m a
natural-born people pleaser (hello, Enneagram 6!) and it’s exhausting, so this
year I’m going to focus hard on not caring so much about what other people
think. Of course, I’m not going to do a
complete 180 and not care about other people at all… that’s not what I
mean. Instead, I want to stop worrying
about the things that aren’t important.
I constantly worry that people won’t like me/don’t like me/don’t care
what I have to say and I feel like I hold my real self back sometimes because
of that. (Stupid anxiety!!) I also HATE talking about my blog to the real
people in my life because I’m worried they’ll judge me/dislike me/won’t
understand (because most people don’t).
But I saw a quote recently that said something like, “It’s not really
your business what other people think about you,” and my goodness that’s so
true! Just let your light shine without
caring what other people think!
Choose joy every single day. Because
it really can be that simple. I’m guilty
of forgetting this, but my Momma and Daddy gave a bracelet to me for Christmas
with this phrase on it. I’m hoping it
reminds me to do this.
Health
Meditate every day. I took up meditating at the end
of 2019 and I can’t even tell you how wonderful it has been for me and my
anxiety! I’ve learned that it is
pertinent to my mental health and I want to try to do it in some form every
single day. I’ll probably do a blog post
about it eventually, too.
Quiet time with God every day. This has done
wonders for my anxiety, too… maybe even more so than the meditating. However, when life gets busy, unfortunately,
I start to let this slide, and it needs to be a priority. I also want to go to confession. I’ve always had anxiety about it so I haven’t
been in years. Time to get to it.
Continue seeing a therapist. I haven’t
talked about it much, but I started seeing someone for my anxiety a couple of
months ago, and she has been amazing.
I’m kicking myself for not doing it years ago. If I had, my anxiety probably wouldn’t have
gotten so out of control this past year.
Drink 64 oz. of water every day. I recently
purchased a 30 oz.Yeti rambler and I’ve found it so much easier to accomplish
this goal every day now that I only have to refill my cup once. Having the right tools to set yourself up for
success is SO important, y’all.
Work out at least twice per week. I have found
that working up a sweat is another thing that is vital for curbing my anxiety,
so this will be a priority this year… even during the busy weeks. If I can’t make it to the gym, I will find a
way to get outside and get moving or at the very least get on my stair stepper
at home.
Eat less sugar and more veggies. My therapist
said that a bad diet can contribute tremendously to anxiety, so I want to
continue watching my sugar intake as I have in previous years, and I want to
continue sneaking in more veggies… especially leafy green ones.
Complete Immunotherapy. My
last allergy test showed that my allergy shots are working and I’m hoping that
this might be the year that I am able to stop getting allergy shots and
possibly eliminate the need for some of my allergy/asthma medications.
Family
Do more fun/different stuff with/for Brian. So much of
the time now we’re on autopilot in all of our busyness and I want to get back
to the fun, carefree us. I want to read
The Five Love Languages together (finally) and try new things for date
nights. I want to do other fun stuff at
home together after the kids go to bed besides our typical TV time that we do
every night (ie: random conversations and Scrabble… we used to play all the
time) and I’d love to try to sneak away together for another overnight
trip. Those are so few and far between
nowadays.
Do more special little things for the kids. I’m often so
busy that I don’t make as much time as I’d like for doing little things for them…
lunchbox notes, baking cookies, etc.
Time to get back to this! It’ll
be a great way to CONNECT. ;o)
Waste more time with Brian and the kids. If we’re not
doing an organized activity like playing a game, reading, watching TV, or going
somewhere, I often use the time to work on a project or I retreat to my office
to work. This year I just want to spend
more time hanging around with everyone just doing nothing... that’s where the
magic happens!
Cook healthier/more adventurous dishes for my
people. I typically stick to chicken and sausage and the
occasional ground beef, but I’d like to start experimenting more with steak and
pork and other meats. I’d also like to try
some new veggies and find some new ways to prepare our tried and true favorites. We have two very picky eaters and I want to
find some new (healthy) things that they like.
I’d like to try some Whole 30 recipes as well.
Take a family trip to visit my brother and sister-in-law
in Huntsville. My bro and
SIL moved to Huntsville
last year to work for NASA and they bought their first home and are thriving
there. We haven’t had the chance to
visit them yet since the kids have been in school, but I want to make a trip
there this summer to see where they live and tour NASA and let them show us
around their new city
that they love so much. We’ve never
been!
GO TO DISNEY WORLD! Eeeek! Our trip is only a couple of months away!
Raise good, well-rounded human beings. This year I want
to give the kids more responsibility around the house (light chores, etc.),
focus on kindness and giving back to others with them, work on money skills
(save/spend/give), and work on being more spontaneous... AKA roll with the
punches. While routines are great, I
don’t want our kids to live and die by them.
I want us to mix it up a little more this year and I want our kids to
learn to enjoy being spontaneous
sometimes. I don’t have a spontaneous
bone in my body, so this will be good for me as well.
Teach Jacob to ride a bike without training wheels!! Once and for
all. Sheesh. Might as well go ahead and teach Olivia, too,
at this point!
Home
Clean out the whole house. I did a
massive clean-out in 2018 that took months, but I still like to do a sweep of
the whole house once per year. They are
quick and painless nowadays since I did that big one a couple of years ago
because we’ve done a really good job of maintaining.
Sell old stuff. I sold a ton of old stuff last
year, but I still have more to list. I’d
like to get the last of it listed this year.
Be intentional with the things I buy. This has been
on my list for a couple of years now and it’ll probably remain because it’s so
important… this is the #1 way to keep the clutter at bay which also makes the
annual house clean-outs much faster and easier.
Buy a new car for myself. Funny to
mention purchasing something when I just said I wanted to be intentional with
the things that I buy, but I’ve officially been driving my current vehicle for
almost 10 years, and I’m in need of an upgrade.
My SUV is so old that it doesn’t even have a screen on the dash – it’s
just an old-school OG dashboard – and therefore, I don’t have a back-up camera,
I don’t have the capability to directly connect my phone to the car to make
phone calls or play my music or anything.
I do currently have an adaptor that allows me to do limited things, but
it’s a bit convoluted so I’m ready for the real thing. My vehicle is also in the small SUV category
and I’d like to move to the mid-range category to have a little bit more space
since we now have two kids and they’re getting bigger by the day. I have my eye on the new Kia Telluride
because it is GORGEOUS. I don’t think I’ve
ever been so excited about a vehicle in my life, and I’m hoping we can find one
that fits in our budget.
Cut down my Master To-Do List by 10%. Last year, I
started with 472 tasks on this list and I cut it down by more than 50%, so just
236 lines remain. However, a lot of the
tasks that remain are more time intensive and/or more costly (think bigger home
projects like painting the inside of the house and revamping our home security
system), so the rate at which I cross them off will slow drastically this year
as a lot of them will be dependent upon our budget and time. Since I’m focusing more on people this year
and less on to-dos, my goal is only to cross off 10% of the items, a drastic
difference from last year.
Make shorter, more manageable Daily To-Do Lists. Last year
since I was trying to get everything DONE I put way more on my plate each day
than I probably should have… and I’m sure that didn’t help with my
anxiety. This year, I’m going to lighten
my load and create more manageable lists that can all be completed before the
kids get home from school or at least before dinner, which is what I had
intended to do in the first place. That
way we have more time for the slow and good stuff and we can all connect after
dinner without other things getting in the way.
Don’t forget to follow along with my list-making in my Instagram
stories… I post them there daily, Monday – Friday!
Maintain. After choosing the word “DONE” in 2019, I
feel like I really got caught up on life stuff last year. Our house is in order, most of it is finally
furnished and decorated and organized the way that I want it (after 10 years),
and more than half of my Master To Do List was accomplished last year. This year, I’ll continue to whittle away at
the Master To Do List (although at a much slower rate) and I just want to
maintain everything else. I’m hoping
that opens the door for more slow, simple time with family.
Blog
Only blog
3-4 days per week… emphasis on 3. Once I get past this catch-up mode that I’m
currently in I ultimately would like to reduce my load to three days per week.
Continue
preparing posts for Monday prior to the weekend and posting weekly recaps on
Tuesday or Wednesday. That way I don’t have to blog during the
weekend at all. Most of the year I’d
like to follow this format – something seasonal/fun/evergreen on Monday, a
weekend recap on Wednesday, and a Five on Friday post with favorite things on
Friday. During busier months, Mondays
and Wednesdays will be for the seasonal/fun/evergreen content and I’ll post the
weekly recaps on Tuesday or Thursday.
Discontinue
What’s Up Wednesday posts. I feel they no longer add value to the blog
so I’m no longer doing them.
Discontinue
bucket lists. I always include our bucket list items in my
monthly goals posts, so the bucket lists are starting to feel redundant. No more bucket lists… instead these items
will be in the “Family” section of my monthly goals posts.
Combine the
two birthday posts I do for each child every year into one post. I currently
write a birthday interview and a birthday letter for each child and post them
on separate days, but I’m going to start combining them to leave more room in
my editorial calendar since I’m trying to blog fewer days per week.
Prepare
posts at least 2-3 days ahead of
their post date. Preparing them the day before they go live
stresses me out sometimes so I’d like to start blogging a few days ahead every
day after I get myself out of this hole I’m currently in. Ha!
Post more
rich, evergreen content that y’all like to see. It seems that
my organization, home decoration, and recipe posts do the very best and y’all
also apparently like seeing my bar cart and charcuterie boards, too, so more of
this in 2020!
Focus on
SEO and Pinterest to increase pageviews. My goal is to increase overall
pageviews for the year while writing less new content.
Hit at
least 500,000 pageviews for the year. Last year I hit 455,261 pageviews and this year I’d
like that number to increase. I’m only
aiming for a modest increase since I’ll be reducing my content.
Start
researching a move to Wordpress/blog revamp. I keep saying I’m going to make
the switch but I’m soooo terrified of losing all of my traffic if something
goes wrong. That’s why I just keep
putting it off.
Instagram –
increase following to 10k. This will happen this year! I’m so close!
Instagram –
talk to you guys more and share more behind-the-scenes of my organizing. I
feel like I stopped doing this late in 2019 so I want to get back into it.
Pinterest –
increase following to 6.5k. I’m currently sitting at 5.8k so I feel like
this is doable.
Facebook –
increase following to 400. I’m hoping to post a little more frequently
on there this year and hopefully that will attract some followers.
Tik Tok –
start dabbling in it and see if I want to pursue it as a possible avenue for
the blog. Not sure if it’ll end up being the way I want
to go, but I’d like to start using it more.
Find one or
two people who would like to persue the essential oils business with me. My gosh, I adore my oils, but I spent hardly any
time sharing their goodness with all of you this past year. I want to pick back up where I left off with
my Instagram oils account and spread the love!
And I feel like having a partner or two may keep me accountable.
And those are my goals for 2020! Cheers to more slow and less busy. Hopefully, anyway. ;o)
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